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Dear Men, Attention Please!👔

Hello everyone🙏, I hope you all are doing good😄

Today, I want to share my thoughts on a very important topic🙋.. To be straightforward, I must tell you, that today I’m here to share my feelings, infact every Indian girl’s feeling on… something every man should know💁…

We, Indian women are sometimes called as narrow-minded 🙅🙆 by some extremely broad minded guys 🙇

But, what actually makes us so?

It’s you.

Let me elaborate…

Social Media😑

Some men ask us whether we are on facebook or instagram. And if we try to just say a polite No. They don’t take it so, rather they make jokes on our narrow mentality😏…

But, let me tell you who’s mentality is more narrow😬..

First of all, they think that they’ll always be satisfied by a ‘Yes’, even if they chat with us (to whom they are completely strangers), or message us at night. I’m a student who has to study at night. Hence, to avoid all distractions, I keep my WiFi off and usually I’m busy in the morning hours for getting ready to school. Therefore, I don’t check my notifications at the morning. And sometimes similar situations arise, but those extremely broad minded guys say, it’s our narrow mentality to answer their super important questions sooo late!

Yet, you are right👏..we are norrow minded😬😄..

It’s sooo sad to say, but we still live in such a society where some boys are sooooo brave and mighty💪, that they have never heard a No in their lives, and what is more disappointing is that, there are still some girls who try to please them or not hurt their extremely sensitive temperament!

Some of thoese special men, who are very powerful and mighty💪, but not brave enough to accept a girl’s No, throw acid on them.. But, still they are brave… But, who makes them so?

It’s You!

Some men learn how to speak english, and how to eat pasta, pizza, burger etc. They wear shirts, jeans and highly branded foreign shoes. But if that’s not enough, they even want a girl who’s a foreigner or like her.. Because, for them, foreigners never say No. But sorry to tell you, they SAY IT. Some men say, foreigners are tooo broad minded.. But it’s my question to them, how many foreigners do you actually know?🙇💁

You want to live like foreigners, in a country like foreign, but the idea of LGBT rights make your society dirty!?

Now, you must be thinking why am I overreacting and why am I saying It’s You (even if you don’t do anything such)?😐😏

It’s because, even if you don’t do anything such, but do you ever try to stop it!? 😑😑

You say that you are very shareef (decent) but first of all you very well know your level of decency, and second, just ignoring and doing no wrong, doesn’t makes you better..

You call me narrow minded and yourself as a gentleman. Then I think that you very well know the society we live in😬.. And I believe that if you really were some gentleman, then, rather than making fun of my narrow mentality, you should have been proud, that teenagers of YOUR country are now much more aware of what is good for them and what is not.

There are some people on social media with a bio like: Laddu ko bhabhi chahiye, humko sapno ki rani chahiye💘 #AwaraMajnu.. (Laddu wants a sister-in-law and I want a queen for my dreams #RoadsideRomeo)😄.. I usually delete their friend request, but now I fear he’ll make jokes on me, if not that, he’ll call me a NARROW MINDED PERSON!! Oh God..😰

Do you know, why still in 2018 we hear news about small girls getting raped? I didn’t knew before, but now I know.. It’s because some people teach us, that if we don’t tell them our insta or fb username, we’ll become narrow minded and mocked by all, and they’ll be praised and appreciated by all. 😬😬

But let me tell you NOT all Indian men are like that… But unfortunately, some extremely broad minded overthinkers are born everywhere.. Please note my word overthinkers..😬

I’d soooo much to say, but I won’t coz I fear that those extremely broad minded overthinkers will again make a mess out of it.. But I’m not interested.

Sorry if I hurt you, but actually I’m trying to be less narrow minded and a bit more straightforward.

And remember, it’s not just my thinking. We all think the same, even your mother.😉 🇮🇳

Thanks.

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142 thoughts on “Dear Men, Attention Please!👔”

  1. Okay, I cane back to this post ’cause I wanna say something: I now officially have experience with this. There was this guy on insta who started following me. I was busy that day, didn’t notice. He dm’d me hi. He replied to one of my stories with a ‘looking so cute’. As I said i was busy. And because I didn’t reply back like in one min, he started texting: arey reply nahi karti ho? Kaisi ladki ho!
    Needless to say I blocked him. And this dude’s bio was that sapno ki rani types!

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    1. Good job girly👏😊👍.. Yes, we should talk about all these incidents so that we have a safer environment as adults. You’re just 13-14 years old, but still, you’ve to face all this😞.. But I don’t pity you, coz I pity him for having this much less modesty and soo narrow mentality..😤 But don’t worry dear. Don’t think about him much, as I’m sure, that his rani will never get out of his sapna.. Lol😂😂..But you have a bright future and you have to make your dreams come true..🤗💞

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  2. You don’t need my attention, I am an old boy.
    This post is too complicated for my narrow mind, forgive the uneducated comment.
    Do You believe in higher power i.e. God, ask him/her (I don’t want to left out any group hating me) to prevent something like rape happen, because this matter, again is so complicated, I’m out, I have talked too much 😅

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      1. What do you think about that comment? Sorry 🤣
        By the way This post remind me of movie called drysham or dyrsyham I can’t remember, I can Google though but I won’t 😂

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      2. I was certain because you were guessing 😁
        What is it that interesting? The movie? Sorry I googled there are 2 movies 2013 and 2015, which one is it? What I meant is the 2015, are those the same though? 😅

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      3. See, one movie is its south Indian version, whereas the other is of Bollywood, starring Ajay Devgn. Its plot is interesting, the way he cleverly found the solution for the big trouble, is quite nice..

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  3. Thank you for this beautiful expression, Avni. It would be nice to somehow effect the cause/actions of others so they make better, more mature choices just before the moment they make that choice. However, we’ve all been given free will. And sorry to say, many abuse it. It sounds like you’re dealing with many young boys who are too immature to understand what ‘no’ means. That’s a whole other can of worms.

    Fortunately for you, Avni, you are living through a time where it is important to speak up and say something, for the World Consciousness grows more and more aware of people abusing the power they have over others. The #MeToo and #TimesUp movements are both powerful movements that challenge humanity to live better lives. The power behind these movements not only speaks to the men in the world, but also speaks to anyone who takes advantage of others for personal gain. Human beings are growing wiser.

    I’m afraid, however, everyone is young at one time in their lives and only time and a conscious willingness to become better, a personal choice, will allow young people to move from adolescence to adulthood. Sometimes, adolescence can last a very long time. I’m sorry to say, but I have known 40 year old men who have yet to enter adulthood. While the grey hairs grows on their heads, their actions are more consistent with adolescence. One of my college professors, Jacob Needleman, once shared the words of a wiseman. “We are born human beings, but it takes time for us to become fully human.” This is our personal quest. This is humanity’s quest.

    There will always be darkness somewhere in the world and within ourselves, but if everyone realized, lived consciously and spoke up when the voice within us shouted for action, the world could be a better place..

    It’s time for everyone to wake up, isn’t it? It’s time for everyone to speak up when something seems off. So speak up.

    Never stop speaking up…

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    1. Thank You sooo much🙏🙏🙏.. It was soo inspiring and encouraging… I completely agree with you… Thank you soo much for your support..🙏🙏😇
      Yes, I can understand your point.. Even, I too have seen a few people who haven’t matured even in there 40s or 50s.. But, those people are exceptions.. A child or a childish man is much harmless, than an adult with a lot of negative feelings and hatered.. And I want those people to question themselves before doing anything wrong, and I want them to be more aware..
      You know, in a classroom, there’re always also some students who don’t pay attention to the class and are left behind in the syllabus.. So, it’s a kind of reminder or notice to those people that they need to change and learn fast, or else they’ll have to pay the consequences as the #timesUp..😉😉

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    1. Thank you soo much🙏😇.. Such support of lovely bloggers here in wordpress always inspires and encourages me..😇😊.. Thankss❤

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      1. Welcome dear 😊 . But I think you misunderstood him. He is one of my blogger friend . Sometime we come to results soon . May be he don’t mean by that or he is not pointing towards you. Calm down nd after few days think about it . Nd I would like to hear your side too only if you r comfortable with that😊

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      2. hmmm.. Sorry, I’m not that bad to insult someone, it was not entire for him and was also not just about him.. I think it’s all a BIG misunderstanding.. Please tell your friend that I never wanted to insult him or call a rapist or something bad to his mom. It was for the other people.. If you are an Indian you clearly must be knowing that kind of people present here.. I’m sorry to hurt him.. I know that you must be thinking that I’ve soo much attitude or I’m very bad, but it’s not like that.. And I really didn’t want to shame him nor everything in the post is about him and that’s why I never mentioned his name.. And I don’t want to complicate this misunderstanding and nor insult him anymore and to compensate it I’m ready to delete this post if you/he want..

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      3. Oh, thats kind of you. Instead of apologizing to me , you should directly sent this comment to him and can clear the misunderstanding dear. He is a good friend sooner or later you will get to know . Have a good day ahead😊

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    2. Hey buddy.. everything she is talking about me… yes I’m that Guy, just coz I asked her whether she is there on Instagram or not…. Now only you can help me to let her understand that I’m not that type of guy.. Now let me tell you the exact matter… i have posted as a thinking post about the Indian blogger where I wanted to clear those points where one Indian blogger should not mistake & should always be straight forward…( post wasn’t specific for anyone, these were just random thoughts about Indian people)
      just like shouldn’t like without reading,( we have already talked about it).. instead of lying we should always try to be straight forward with anyone.. ( seriously I didn’t mention about only girls).. also I wanted to add some point about while comments on award but unfortunately I didn’t get time to cover all these points… seriously my intention was different & was talking about blogges rather than any girls.. also I didn’t think about avni .. as she is new on WordPress, again she is a kid also I didn’t ask her that why you’re lying me coz seriously I wasn’t talking about her ( I agree, I took reference of her comment but it was just for to convey that we shouldn’t lie for anything) .. now come to the point about the bloggers about whom I talked .. I can show you their insta account & also their comments when they lied me ( 2 people with comments) .. will seriously tell you out.. I swear I didn’t even think about avni coz I knew she was New.. without knowing anything whether she is there or not (that’s not needed) how can I assume & talk about anyone.. that’s really wrong.. n that’s exactly did avni, as she has taken lots of efforts to show me as a stalker, rapist.. broadminded (who’s more than 5 yrs elder than her) .. I literally got headache while reading this post.. even about my mom.. ( but my mom never taught me to lie).. she has totally misunderstood me without knowing anything about myself..but I kept myself quit just coz she is kid.. but I really respect you my budding teen who can assume anything about the person whom you really don’t know…. I’m sorry if I have ever hurt you…(I’m too much hurt) it was literally not for you.. still you’re thinking like that, that’s not my problem… hey buddy hope you will try to let her understand about my nature…

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      1. Ohh, I don’t realize that . That’s wrong to humiliate someone like this . But if you know that you don’t have such kind of intentions , or she misunderstood you . Then leave it . It’s okk , let them think nd assume without knowing the truth . Let it be go nd don’t stress your mind . I will try to tell her that you don’t mean by that post . But calm down nd relax . Everything will be fine soon👍

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      2. Yeah I have already decided to skip it but.. when you appreciated it I couldn’t resist myself to let you know the truth… Coz you know me better than anyone else.. thank you so much ..!!

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      3. Yes, buddy and I’m not aware of it . I can feel the aggression in her post , thoughts but I ‘m unaware of the matter . She felt sorry for it and her intention was not to hurt you at all . It’s better if you both clear your misunderstanding 😊

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      4. Hey.. I’m sorry but this post was not for you… It’s for the entire society.. I’m not that bad to hurt someone that badly, but it was not entirely about you.. I’m really very sorry if you felt so hurt.. But I’m not calling you any rapist.. I know that what you did was not that bad, you just wanted to know my username, right? But isn’t not always that every person thinks like you, you’re elder to me (like a brother) but I think that you very well know about the society.. Like yesterday, a kid literally started asking me my fb id, as he wants to improve his image which he had destroyed and understands that very well..
        You have 10 times the followers than me, and are much more better blogger than me, I never expected you to call it narrow mentality.. And if this all is a misunderstanding then let’s end it now.. Because, I never wanted to shame anyone.. But it was not for you, and while living in India, I think you too know about that kind of people…
        But I think let’s leave this all as a mis understanding from both the sides (if you want), and I admit my mistake, that my sentence formation were too wrong, but I didn’t want to make you shame if you were right.. I’m really very very sorry.. I should have thought from every angle before publishing it.. I realllyy reallly didn’t wanted to say you a rapist or anything bad for your mom.. That’s why I didn’t mentioned your name because it was not just for you😞..
        And if you want, I’m ready to delete this post..

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      5. Nd I’m sorry if you found any offense in my post, as I have written it in Hindi.. I agreed, I’m not from smart generation as you’re, also will try to improve my English as well & everything that you have explained… !!
        Good morning .. keep smiling .. 🙂 : ) : )

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      6. Good morning 🙂
        Smart generation jaisi koi cheez nahi hoti hai..Infact, aapki generation humse zyada experienced hai.. And, I’m comfortable in hindi also👍
        No, if you’re right, there is no need for change. Jaisa ki meine pehle kaha tha, ki ye post sirf kisi ek insaan k liye nahi hai (tabhi meine kisi ka naam mention nahi kiya tha).. Toh ismein jo kuch bhi likha hai sab aapke liye nahi hai..
        Have a great day!

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    3. BRAVE lady to share what it feels like to be you. I am certain others will be able to warmly relate to your feelings of being “boxed” into a stereotype. Thank you for sharing! YAYYYY YOU!

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      1. And ya wanna apologize towards my behavior I was misgiuded by someone during that time period😔
        And ya pls delete all my comments too I could have a. Bad influence on our visiters

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      2. No.. I’m not thinking as you are thinking that I’m thinking😝
        But, it’s my wish.. I really don’t want to.. If you want to prove yourself, WordPress welcomes you😛

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      3. Okay, as you wish😛.. They are nice bro, you’ll definitely improve and become an excellent blogger soon, but for that you need to be a bit more focused and dedicated and stay away from all that kind of distractions..☺

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  4. Good for you! This is not limited to your country, though it may be more so. It is world-wide. All men are born entitled, even those who are privileged, even those who are poor. To the few men who are becoming more conscious of this, I say “Bravo!”

    In America it is said that women are ‘liberated’. This is not so. You will hear that 2% of government is made up of women, and suddenly women think they are men’s equals when it should be obvious that they are not. Ignorance prevails, not just regarding Truth, but in society in general.

    You are enlightened as to this situation and are speaking your piece. Bravo for YOU. May the whole world hear you.

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    1. Thank you soo much🙏😇.. I know, where there is light, there must be shadow.. Similarly, at this time, men in my country are improving and geting better, but there are still some dust in the minds of some, which pollutes the clean air and pure thoughts of others too.. This thick layer is present there since the old time and has to be cleaned.. And dust can get anywhere, everywhere, even in the most secured and save guarded environment…
      It’s just more difficult to clean that alone, but with all of your support and encouragement I believe that I CAN do it..🙏🙏❤😇

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  5. Many more could be added to this !! But i think thats enough !! And the reality is we cannot change the world.. let us change ourselves!! We need not mind what they think of us.. just do what we feel right.. we are not answerable to anyone 🤗

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    1. Hmmm.. I too think that many many much more could be added to it, but this is much (as I wrote in the concluding part).. It’s not my answer to those men, it’s my warning that we are now more questionable and need answers from them.. I think women and men of India have changed, and improved.. But there are some students in the class who are distracted and hence left behind in the syllabus, and it’s just a reminder to them… That now the new generation is not more like the earlier one, even 15 year olds know their rights better… And hence they should know that it’s their time to change..😄

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    1. Thank you sooo much for your comment🙏🙏.. Actually, I don’t know how your comments got marked as spam.. That’s why I couldn’t reply.. I’m extremely sorry.. Thank you sooo much for your kind words🙏😇.. Yes, my name is Avni☺
      Nice to meet you❤😊

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      1. You’re welcome much! Ha! I think wordpress is trying to tarnish my adequate reputation! But its all good, God got my back! 🙏💯…Oh nice, Hi Avni, I’m Tammy from de Caribbean! Lol 🌴🌊☀

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      2. Oh, I still don’t know how they got marked as spam😖😖.. Okay, lets leave that topic..
        Hi Tammy, Nice to meet you.. I’m Avni from India😄😄

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      3. Its ok! God is great! Never mind that! WordPress will fix there challenges!
        Oh nice, hello lol! Have you ever been to the Caribbean, by the way I love India! Lol

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      4. Yeah, I’ve also visited there through my computer screens😅😂😂.. I’m sure it’s as beautiful as it seems in my computer😍😍.. You will also enjoy here a lot.. There’s sooo much to do here in India, so make sure to plan a long holiday😀🍜🍲🍢🍱

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      5. 😂😂😂 I thought I was alone but BAM! There you came! Lolol!! Yessssss!! It is!!! Its a paradise! ✨…Yessssss!!! I know I will! Is it possible I need to learn Hindi before I come to your country? I know how to talk Hindi a little lol! I learned it from watching a lot Indian soap operas! 😊

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      6. Hahah😂😂 High Five✋
        Ya, Hindi is very quite to learn if you understand the basics of grammar.. Oh really!! Even I too want to learn foreign languages, but I’m a bit lazy😌😌..

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      7. High five back ✋ lolol!!! Oh ok cool nice! Lol! I have to pick back up on my studies tho lol! Lol😄! I love speaking different languages! I speak Spanish, little French, African, Korean, German lol and Hindi.

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      8. 😂😂😂😅!!! Actually no, more like Chinese and Japanese drama I watched! Lol! That was when I was much younger tho! I learned a little Korean from one of my former Korean friend.

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      9. 😅😅😅😅😅!!!! I can’t believe you don’t know Jet Li!!! He’s the best Chinese actor EVER! And also de most popular one! I think he’s retired now tho…or maybe just tired 😂😂😂😂😂!!

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      10. Actually I’ve seen only one series and that too in dec last year.. Actually my exams are near.. But I’ll surely see any of Jet Li’s shows after my exams😅😅

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  6. The failure, to accept that women and girls have dreams and goals in life, is the culprit. It is true everywhere, even in the “Enlightened West”. In my waking up days, I was never prouder of a young woman I somehow fancied, than when she told me off, in a few choice, but decent words. She had grown up, whereas I had some catching up to do. Stand your ground!

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    1. Thanks🙏😊.. Yeah.. Actually I think that thoese emojis make it a bit more realistic and fun to read. 😉.. I don’t want to put anyone to shame, even the blogger about whom I talked. All I want is them to understand. Because I feel that putting them to shame will not be my victory, but if I make them realize and bring a feeling to change in their minds, I think it’ll be a much greater victory for me… Infact, not just me, but to all girls who feel and experience the same..💪😇✌

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      1. I can’t wait to see that day..😇 I think that if our talented Indian Aunties focus more on their ward than others and if everyone just focuses on their level of decency, than these cases will just reduce to less than half within a day😏😏

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      2. 😂 You’re right.. But it’s different.. Actually, I believe that allllllll this is because of Indian education system. We teens are taught how to produce hydrogen, but we aren’t taught how to do these sort of things… Now, you tell me yourself, what is more important in life, how to make hydrogen or how to behave? After all we’re humans and citizens first.. Jobs and position comes afterwards.. 😕

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      3. Yes our education system lacks lot of things. Emphasis is given on cramming out long syllabus without insisting on practical application. Our Behaviour personality is a result of biased treatment between both genders.

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    1. Yeah, I clearly mentioned that I wrote land of dreams 2 years back, when I was only 13😊. But eventually I woke up from my land of dreams and maybe this is the sad reality and that was just a fantasy😓😉.. Maybe i would have been there for some more time, but I couldn’t resist😎.. Thank you sooo much for encouraging me.. 🙏😊

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    1. I’m happy to get this platform, at this age, to speak my heart out, because I fear, if I was a bit grown up, I would have just ignored and focused on how to save myself, rather than fighting for our rights… But I’m the youth of my country.. I’m its future, and it’s my responsibility to make my country better for the next generation..
      Thank you for encouraging me..🙏🙏

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      1. Yes, I understand😊🙏. Time’s changing and so is the mentality of people in my country☺.. But there are always some students in the class, who don’t pay attention to the lecture and hence they are left behind the syllabus😬😂.. Similarly, some people forget to update😏. That’s why, it’s a reminder to them..😉

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